Sometimes I wish my parents had given me lessons as a child that would have benefited me as an adult. Piano lessons or ballet classes, for example. Or perhaps they could have encouraged me to play sports. These activities would have taught me discipline, teamwork, and/or social skills.
While I have acquired many of these skills in other ways, it is easier as an adult to develop them as a child. Being late in learning how to be an adult makes it harder to be a successful adult. It is not fatal but it causes complications.
What is more important is inculcating in children a deep faith. For that I am truly grateful. I may not know how to ride a bike and I am not able to speak foreign languages with ease but I know and love God.
It is something I don’t see in many other adults and even children and it makes me sad. I know people who have so much going for them but they lack faith. And I ask myself, what is the point? How can parents take so much time and put in so much effort for their children to get into good schools, and develop meaningful friendships, and have the latest gadgets but not give any thought to their children’s souls?
I don’t get it.
There are people I know who are wildly successful and their parents are so proud of them. I understand that but I don’t comprehend how anyone can think their children are in a good place when they don’t believe in God and practice their faith. I especially don’t get it when the parents are believers.
But that is the world we live in–people’s values are upside down. People equate success with goodness and make worldly values our goal. We chase the latest fashions, the fastest cars, the newest phones and call ourselves accomplished if we can get these things with the highest-paying jobs, the most prominent titles and the highest honors the world can bestow.
These are not bad things. It is just they are not the only thing. Or the most important thing.
What we should first and foremost impart to our children is our faith, our love of God and our hope for their future–particularly their future in the next life if they can live righteously and get to Heaven. That is the point of this life after all.
How few people seem to know this anymore and how detrimental it is when our greatest gift to our kids is the one we don’t give them.